The prevailing policy-based definition of major work-life transitions suggests that they happen all at once.
One day you’re on the team — in meetings, answering emails, messaging colleagues. The next, you’re just…not. You wake up to the first in a long stretch of days as a retiree, or a new parent, nary a Slack message in sight. For those on leave, some time later, you’re suddenly back at work again, typically thrown straight into a full-time existence of rapid-fire projects and deadlines.
Intense emotions surrounding major life adjustments can last anywhere from 6 to 9 months after the triggering event Click To Tweet
Contrary to the reality suggested by standard employment policy, literally everything we know about how humans adapt to change tells us that the natural pace of adjustment to any major life transition is gradual. The bible of behavioral health, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, tells us that intense emotions surrounding major life adjustments (like having a baby or retiring) can last anywhere from 6 to 9 months after the triggering event. Major change brings with it complex emotions of loss and fear; healthy coping entails developing skills and perspective that can take time to acquire. If you’ve experienced such a transition yourself, you’ll recall the accompanying identity shift — you eventually come to see yourself as a different person than you were beforehand. Such profound shifts don’t happen overnight.
The on/off switch suits the bureaucratic machine. Click To Tweet
Parental leave and retirement are among the life transitions that most deeply affect our work. Most workplaces are not designed to factor this into practices surrounding leave. For the most part, at the policy level, both parental leave and retirement start all at once. These clear transitions simplify administrative functions. Security clearance, desk equipment, and benefits are all easier to retract or activate at once. The on/off switch suits the bureaucratic machine.
Many of us don’t want to either stop or re-start work all at once.
The problem with this approach is that it’s not optimized for human performance. Many of us don’t want to either stop or re-start work all at once, particularly when we have competing priorities on the “life” side of the equation. The starkness of these sudden transitions creates unnecessary stress, and also leaves a surplus of potential productive working hours untapped as people ramp off and back on into the workforce. More, the on/off bureaucratic construct contrasts starkly with the more gradual emotional and professional realities of each transition.
In order to address this psychological and human capital gap, a growing number of companies have begun to implement leave and retirement policies that more closely mirror the transition process it is meant to accommodate.